I swear, there must be something in the water. I have SO. MANY. PREGNANT. FRIENDS.
I went to my 10 year high school reunion just a few weeks ago and I felt like there were more pregnant women than not! Plus tons of new moms who were enjoying their first night out since their big arrival. I found myself talking more about delivery and newborns than anything else! On top of that, I feel like I can’t scroll through Facebook without seeing one of those precious pictures of a glowing new mama perched up in her hospital bed with a little bundled up baby in her arms. It really is wonderful. It’s crazy how much differently I look at those pictures now that I have been in their shoes. It’s such a magical time I find myself thinking about those friends often.
Let’s be frank, life with a new baby is hectic. When I look back on those first 10 days home with Emmy, it’s a blur of baby kisses, tears of joy, tears of exhaustion, surprisingly wonderful meals, surprisingly painful laughs and so much more. Expectant mama’s- read on to prepare yourselves!
We arrived home on a Sunday afternoon around 1 P.M. The most surreal feeling was driving away from the hospital with A BABY. Didn’t the doctors and nurses know we were clueless? Luckily Jay’s parents were at home waiting for us and could help calm any baby storms coming our way. How cute is Jay with little 3 day new Emmy?
The First 10 Nights
During the first 10 nights of baby’s life, they will typically wake every 2-3 hours to eat. It may even feel like they are more awake and alert during the wee-hours of the morning than they are during the day time, but this is completely normal. After spending 9 months in the womb, they have no concept of what day and night it. This is something you will help them understand as they get older. Be sure to read this post on how I got my baby sleeping through the nights by 8 weeks and how I used simple tactics to help them get their night time vs. day time sorted out.
I think it is safe to say that there are very few people who are accustomed to waking every 2-3 hours at night for multiple nights in a row. I am not someone who functions well on little sleep. Add on the fact that I just delivered a baby via c-section and I was just a train wreck waiting to happen. But like you always hear them say, you have to sleep when the baby sleeps. Now this doesn’t mean EVERY time the baby sleeps. I used the rule that anytime she was sleeping before noon during the day, I was too. After noon, I was rested enough to function and I could stay up while she was sleeping after that to complete tasks.
Another note in regards to the nights- be sure you have EVERYTHING you could need for baby close by. Diapers, wipes, extra change of clothes, water for mom, extra swaddle blankets. The less running around you are doing at 3 AM, the better. Not only for baby, but for you too. I set up an entire breastfeeding station to help make late time feeds easier. More on that here.
Breastfeeding in the first 10 days
It’s hard. That’s the easiest way to put it.
Baby is starving those first few days before the milk comes in. Your nipples begin to dry out, crack, even bleed.
The first few seconds of a latch would literally make me wince in pain. My saving grace was milk storage bags filled with Aloe Vera that had been in the freezer and nipple cream ( love AD cream for nipples and diaper rash). You can also try rubbing a little bit of your own breast milk on your nipple and letting it air dry. Hot showers work wonders too, just make sure you don’t have a high pressure shower head aimed straight at your sore nips, bad combo.
Bottom line, it isn’t going to be a walk in the park. But it is SO WORTH IT! I could go on for days on all the wonderful things your breast milk is doing for your baby. By day 10 it won’t hurt as bad. By day 20 you won’t even feel it when she latches on. And by month 3 you will realize how convenient it is to breast feed and how much money it saves compared to formula and you will be swearing to breastfeed for a full year. Just stick to it.
The best advice I can give you to prepare yourself for breastfeeding is to take the online Breastfeeding Class from Milkology. I took it and was blown away by how much I learned and how helpful it was with all aspects of breastfeeding. It was created by a lactation counselor who really knows her stuff. You can read more about the course here.
Also, be sure do download our free baby tracker to help keep all of the details on baby’s feedings and diaper changes straight.
Mom Bod in the first 10 days
Unlike the supermodels of the world, your body will not be back in skinny jeans and a crop top anytime soon. When I left the hospital I looked about the same as I did 6 months pregnant. I had a c-section (read more about how completely unexpected that was here) and had alot of swelling that made wearing pants impossible.
About a week before I had Emmy, I went to Forever 21 and bought a bunch of their $2.80 leggings and plain t-shirts in 1-2 sizes too big. I’m sure you can imagine the looks I got. Nine months pregnant shopping at Forever 21. Even with me waddling through the store as fast as my preggers legs could go, I still caught some glimpses of people staring with their judging eyes. Any who, I emptied out a drawer in my dresser for nothing but big, comfy clothes I bought. This kept me from sorting through clothes and having to think “that won’t fit me”. It was also a helpful move when having to get dressed quickly to get back to your hungry baby!
Your body will change back in time. One of my postpartum nurses told me the best thing I could do to help my body bounce back was drinking TONS of water. So. much. water. You know those big mugs they give you at the hospital as a parting gift for delivering a human being? She told me to drink no less than 3 of those a day for the first month. And it worked! I slowly saw my body morph back into its pre-baby shape.
Well, not COMPLETELY back to normal, but close enough. Biggest helper was a Belly Bandit. This one worked fine, and let me tell you, it was worth. every. penny. It just kind of squeezed everything back into place and really helped my uterus shrink back to normal size much faster.
When you look in the mirror those first couple days after baby, just remember that your body created LIFE! Your heart will never be the same, and neither will your body. But chances are when you are holding your little beybey, you won’t care about your body.
Visitors in the first 10 days
One of the best pre-baby conversations Jay and I had was about visitors. We decided that it was okay to tell people that we were too tired or that Emmy needed rest. This is not to say that visitors are a burden, they can actually be your saving grace. I took some of my best naps when my mom and sister were here and watched Emmy. I ate some delicious meals in those first 10 days due to the cooking skills of visitors. We also did our fair share of asking for rain checks on visits. We wanted to be able to truly enjoy our time with anyone who came to meet Emmy and if we were too tired, we simply asked when another day worked better for them since today didn’t seem to work with Emmy’s sleep schedule.
Point being, enjoy your time with the ones who love you and your baby, it’s a special moment that will only happen once. But also make sure you are taking care of yourself and baby daddy by taking time for yourselves when you need it.
Gadgets and Gizmos we love
There were a few things that really saved us some sanity in those first few days. You have to have a sound machine. The womb is LOUD from all of the blood rushing through mamas veins. Recreate that sound with baby to soothe them. We originally had this cute lamb as Emmy’s sound machine but it could only operate on a timer and we needed the noise all night. I found this inexpensive one and it has worked wonders. It can plug into the wall and play all night or on a timer and it has a few different sound options.
The Swaddle Me Swaddlers were HUGE life savers in those first few nights to keep Emmy feeling secure enough to get into a sound sleep.
I would also HIGHLY suggest signing up for Amazon Family Diaper & Wipe Subscription. It saves time and money… and it saves you from taking a trip to the store with a newborn for diapers. Also, lots of nipple cream, lots of coffee (yes, you can have a cup!) and a whole lot of baby kisses.
Sleepless nights aside, the first 10 days are so magical. Soak in every minute, take entirely too many pictures and snuggle your little nugget every minute you get. I already look back at these pictures of Emmy’s first days and just can’t believe how much she has already grown!